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Obedience and Disobedience

I’m back to reading Good: The Joy of Christian Manhood and Womanhood. This sentence from Chapter 7: Everyday Forward, brought me to a screeching halt:

Disobedience brings negative consequences; obedience brings positive consequences.

Now, I realize that this is coming from a dad who means it quite innocently in the way of “there’s a good reason why a child should STOP on a dime and not run out into the street.”

But, we literally just had a chapter on how and why women are supposed to submit to their husbands and earlier in this chapter, this same dad “explained that civil authorities (like presidents) are God-given blessings for our flourishing.”

[I wonder how much tongue biting went with saying/writing this about Obama.]

The chapter on submission implies that wives aren’t supposed to blindly to bad husbands, but since I hat advice is immediately followed by:

“Ultimately, Christ is a wife’s final authority….As a wife follows her calling to submit in marriage, she is ultimately submitting to Christ”

Paired with NO ADVICE on how a woman is supposed to deal with an abusive husband (i.e. divorce his ass!) and Lori Alexander’s disgusting article about how women are supposed to submit without any expectation that their husband will reform himself (or as I think of it, the most blatant propaganda to keep women in abusive relationships), it appears that “not blindly submitting” really means that women know and accept that they are being treated like dirt.

{If you feel you are being abused and need help, please call the Domestic Violence Hotline:  +18007997233 or visit http://www.thehotline.org}

Is it no wonder I got concerned when a dad wants to teach his children that obedience (always and only) leads to positive effects and disobedience (always and only) leads to negative effects?

The world is not black and white and children are NEVER too young to learn that sometimes disobedience is the correct choice!

  • Being abused by a person (especially when the person is in an obvious position of power).
  • The Holocaust HAPPENED! Other Genecides are happening today!
  • Jesus Camp has a scene where a 10 year old boy says that Galileo should have submitted to the Church’s teaching on the Sun orbiting the Earth. Because apparently scientific discovery is disobedience.

Children  should be taught right from wrong and why they shouldn’t do certain things for their own safety. But teaching children to “do what I said because I said so” doesn’t teach children real life skills except how to please people.

Good: The Joy of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood–Introduction

​For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus, (Galatians 3: 27-28) 

This text is helpful for our purposes. It doesn’t mean that the gospel wipes out manhood and womanhood. It does mean that our fundamental reality in life is our identity in Jesus Christ.

Hmm…If there IS male and female, that would also mean that there is not only Jew and Greek, but also slave and free. I don’t see how you can have one pairing without having all.

We are not free to choose our sexual predilections.

I agree! But these authors seem to think that people choose to be LGBTQ. I hope no offense is taken when I say that I would not choose to be a lesbian. Just as I wouldn’t expect a lesbian to choose to be straight.

I love how earlier they stated that masculinity and femininity aren’t based on any stereotypes, but that men are leaders and women are followers. Dress and actions don’t matter. Well, we’ll see how long it takes for someone to say that boys should play rough sports while girls cook.

Actually, upon further reflection, if all that matters is that boys lead while girls follow, then what does sexual preference and gender roles have to do with anything? Making a boy lead when he’s not a natural born leader is every bit as artificial as making a boy look like a boy because he was born with a penis. I feel like that comes across as insensitive–ladies, I don’t care if you were born with a penis, you are welcome in the bathroom with me so long as we have separate stalls (because I don’t even want my hubby looking at me when I’m on the toilet, let alone anyone else, male, female, other, whatever!) ☺. If God designed boys to lead, then a boy who doesn’t have a desire to lead obviously isn’t a boy (just pointing out the stupidity of this argument).

Don’t try to become something you’re not. Embrace who God made you to be…


Strange, all that talk about how it’s ridiculous that mere humans think that they are capable of doing anything and being whomever they want to be, only to finish the chapter with the story of a boy who is (severely) disabled learning to walk because of the willfulness of his adoptive father. Looking past the supposition that the child is being abused by not having his disability respected, we’re left with a child being taught that despite his body saying that he’s not capable of walking, through willpower alone, he can defy the limitations he was born with. I thought this chapter was about accepting the fact that if you are born with a penis, you are expected to be a leader, fall in love with a woman and have more children than you can afford. Apparently being born with a disability is different than being born with a penis when it comes to defining your destiny.